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layout: post
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date: 2026-05-15 16:08
title: No in advance
link: https://sive.rs/n0
cited: Derek Sivers
class: indie
type: linked
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Really like this approach. I use some canned messages and text in my app ShortKeys. This feels like a sensible addition.

> **I took an hour to write a really nice "no" in advance. ** Considerate, but decisive. Not too long, but not too short. Generalized and versatile for all situations.
>
> I saved it on my computer and phone, to copy and paste. Now as soon as I get an unwelcome request? Tap-tap-tap. COPY-PASTE-SEND in three seconds, and it's out of mind.
>
> No anguish. No discomfort. No resentment. No procrastination.

...

> I won't post my text here, since it needs to be in your natural voice. But here's my outline, in case it helps:
>
> 1. a **clear "no"** right away
> 2. **gratitude**, since I'm honored by my value implied in the ask
> 3. **explanation** that to stay focused on a bigger "yes", I'm saying "no" to everything else
> 4. good wishes, and if my situation is temporary, an **invitation** to ask again next year
>
> Four sentences is enough. Nobody wants verbosity here.